What’s up Czar? I wanted to keep in touch with you because you remind me of myself in many ways. I just wanted to know how you became so successful in life and the things you did to get there. Was failure ever something you ran into? I’m going to be 28 in September and I feel as if I’m getting old already while everyone around me is getting married and getting these great jobs with their college degrees and I feel so behind sometimes where it gets discouraging. My family members always brag about their kids and their successes and how much money they make when I know most of it is fabricated, but I can tell the look of disappointment in my parents’ eyes because they have nothing to brag about with their son. I feel as if my parents gave up on me due to my past mistakes and it weighs heavy on me. I want them to be happy one day knowing I made it in life and knowing I make more money than any of my family members. If there’s any way you can relate or give me advice that would be great. I know it’s not about just picking up woman or fucking many hot girls with your teachings but it’s also a way of life. A way to become a man in all aspects.
Thank you so much Czar!
Everything, all of life, dating, Alpha, business, success, achievement, and anything else really comes down to how you VIEW the situation and the meaning you attach behind it. Everything is how both your conscious and subconscious mind sees you and the event in question.
The big difference between a successful person and a failure is how they view the event and what they do about it. A failure will try something, it won’t work, and they get emotionally hurt and stop trying. A success tries something, it doesn’t work, so they look at what elements or variables could be changed to increase the odds of a successful outcome. They then try again. And again, and again and so on till they finally figure it out.
This has been my key to my life. I decide what I want, then I learn and try till I get what I want.
I have had thousands of life events that could be seen as failures (many of them sure did feel like it at the time). Many times, I have felt like a HUGE failure – primarily before all of the self-education in attraction, the subconscious mind and achievement. For example, when I lost my job the oral surgeons office, I saw it as a huge failure because all I ever wanted to be, was a dentist and his recommendation was with HIGH regard. I felt I had let down my employees, my boss, family, and myself. I also felt I lost what was attractive about me to the opposite sex. With time and wisdom, that experience has taught me that with every failure, there is an equal and opposite chance of success as well. This is when a new door opened for me where I can now teach men how to become the man ALL women adore and other men respect. The Czar and Savior of Masculinity. God put me down a new path and a new purpose from a bad situation.
I no longer see that moment as failure; I see it as training for bigger task I had to take on later in life. If you have read any of my life story, you know the primary reason I began this journey into Alpha was the failure of my relationship I had with a girl I saw myself marrying. And make no mistake about it, any man that truly loves and desires a woman will feel the sting of failure if she leaves him. Or cheats on him. Or betrays him in any other way. She was one of the rarest girls I have ever dated in my life.
As for the family, I have never lived the standard 9-5, white house, 2-3 kid’s type of life. For a while, different members of my family did give me a hard time… to pick one job and stay there forever, or to settle with one woman, stop dating so many different women, and probably the biggest was hating and judging me for my social media content. Almost every member of my family has expressed displeasure in what I do now with the path I chose. They did so more when my mental frame wasn’t as solid as it is today, but they do still sometimes verbally disapprove.
But in my mind, I just don’t give a fuck. I love my family, and I always thank them for their input and views… and I keep right on doing whatever I want. I haven’t had a “job” in years…. I own my own business so I have clients that I can help by making a difference and having an impact on their lives. But I would rather spend my money on sports cars, motorcycles, travel and guns… not houses with white picket fences or the carpets that match the drapes.
Something else you really need to learn, digest and keep with you at all times… you don’t “make” other people happy. They either choose to be happy, or they choose not to be happy. Sure, your actions may impact which way they may swing, but in the end, they are the ones that decide. Once you know this, you will find you feel freer and have more abundance. Their unhappiness is not your problem and out of your control.
Once upon a time, a girl I really loved sent me a text saying she was done with me. The old me was devastated. I felt like less of a man, or the guy that couldn’t keep his woman satisfied. But that is life. Things break and things fall apart. Nothing lasts forever. In a way, that girl did me a favor by showing me who she really was. Rather than diminish my self-esteem, it made me feel smarter and luckier since I hadn’t married her (with her asking a lot) or invested in her too much. These days I feel better prepared in dealing with new women I meet since I have more experience and I understand the dynamics of why some people do what they do.
Come to think of it, I have probably been rejected more than any man or woman that has found my content. How can I say this? Easy… I approach and meet more people than anyone I have ever met. I have also probably been with more hot girls than anyone reading this blog. Since I have been rejected more, am I a success or failure? See what I mean about attaching meaning to an event?
As for getting old… please. I am 5 years older than you and I feel young. I have a very hot girlfriend (younger than you) and I am still hit on by other girls. Had a cute 22-year-old randomly give me her number the other day…. Not my kind of girl, but I loved the feeling. This happens to me more now than when I was 28. Once again, whatever you have in your life is what it is for right now… but how you feel about it is up to you. You and you alone, decide what meaning you give to the events in your life.
However, all of life’s lessons have taught me to focus on what I want and the positives around me. This allows me to keep my energy, vibe and general life better. My last thought on this is to keep in mind these are not excuses for failure. I am always looking for ways to build my business, hone my skills, learn more about relationships and generally enjoy a deeper life. I make mistakes, I fuck up, I let people down and people let me down. The key is to see these as opportunities to improve, to learn to be a better man, and keep sharing your positive energy with the world. TURN THAT PAIN INTO PURPOSE.
A secret everyone should learn is you attract whatever you focus on. If you focus and place meaning on your life as a failure since you don’t have kids, the “white picket fence” life or the success other people do, you will attract failure.
If, on the other hand, you believe that the skills you are learning now will make your relationships and success that much deeper and bigger, you will attract success and deeper relationships.
It really is all up to you. Remember, nothing is a failure so as long as there is a lesson learned from it. What you will realize is the lesson learned is worth so much more than the failure itself.
Hope this helped – Czar Danya