Hi Czar,
I love your stuff. I’m fed up with all the BS out there, especially the Red Pill community and what it turned into. I want to become a raw masculine confident man who exudes that raw Alpha energy like you do. Your videos and content are my favorite. I get bored watching other dating coaches, reading their advice and their books. You are the real deal who speaks the brutal truth. Can you please describe the exact process you would use to get someone to go from beta to an Alpha? What was your journey and transformation like? Did you approach many women a day? How did you figure out where you were going wrong in your interactions? How did you internalize the new beliefs? How did you become the masculine Alpha man you are today? Love your stuff.
Best regards,
Chance
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Hey Chance,
Thank you very much for the compliments and kind words. Much appreciated.
As for you question, the path I took was a much longer path than the material I teach. I had to learn through my trials and errors when I didn’t have social media or the content that is out now with all this Red Pill content and dating “gurus”. I trimmed out all of the crap that was not needed. With that, there were some key components I did that really helped.
First, I had almost zero confidence when I started. I was actually scared to even go up and say “hi” to a girl. I recall being at my first party in high school and this beautiful girl comes up to me and said, “Wow. You’re cute.” I had NO clue what to say to her after and I said the most beta shit that came to my mind, “Want to go downstairs so we can get to know each other?” I never saw that girl ever again. My attitude with how I said things as well as my confidence wasn’t all there at that time. I began reading and studying Pickup from various Pickup Artists, Social Dynamics, and Psychology because I knew I had to overcome my fear of talking to attractive girls. My love for learning pushed me into solving the biggest puzzle piece of my life which was women.
I started by talking to everyone. When I was in line at the gas station I joked with the guy behind me. Or the cashier. Nothing major, just small talk. The “how is you day?” or “you look bored” type of fluff. You will find that in a very short amount of time you will naturally be able to talk to anyone. The tongue is the only tool that gets sharper with every use. I began making eye contact and saying, “Hey, how are you?” with every girl and guy I would walk past. This helped me gain confidence with my eye contact and being confident in talking to everyone I met.
I then started approaching every girl I saw that I thought was attractive and not that attractive. At first, I wasn’t even trying to pick up the girl; I just wanted to get over being nervous or scared of the hot 5’4 110-pound girl. I hated being scared of a girl that I could literally throw on top of a house or hip thrust through a ceiling.
I never had a “number” of approaches in mind – I just made myself approach every girl I would fuck. As you learn the rest of my material found in my attraction e-book (like pattern interrupts, cocky & funny, calibration, social proof and embedded commands) it becomes very easy to read and flirt with a girl. I had also read a lot of BS advice or at least “so-so” advice. These are things I tried that just never really felt comfortable. Like wearing certain clothes (items or other conversation pieces known as peacocking. I also tried several “pick up” scenarios and openers that just felt wrong because it was canned and wasn’t authentic or natural.
I tried many ridiculous things that some pickup artist taught, simply because I did not have any clue as to what worked. The stuff that did work, I refined. The crap, like peacocking, canned openers, routines, I removed. And I have them all in my training. I also kept a journal. When I tried a new approach, or scenario, technique, I wrote down where I was, what I did, how hot I thought the girl was, how the interaction went and how I felt about the exchange. I learn by writing everything down as notes and I begin to study what I did right or what I did wrong. How can I make myself better when it comes to women? I would try these tactics and techniques many times, and the ones that did not produce numbers and lays, I stopped doing. Repeating the same thing over and over again but expecting different results is insanity.
As I made myself do this, I rapidly blew past my fear and started having a lot of fun with it. The more I learned about language patterns, what women respond to, what triggers them sexually, the faster I could sleep with a girl. That’s where I started learning about the subconscious mind, all of the routines that are programmed into our minds, and how most of it we didn’t consciously choose to put there.
As I learned about habits and how our internal programming impacts our view of the world, I learned that our internal feelings DICTATE how others deal with us. Most people reflect what we believe about ourselves. I also learned it is damn hard to change our internal programming.
Whether it was the amount of studying I did, or the subliminal messages I would repeat over and over again at night and in the morning, my sex life exploded. I have literally had some of the wildest experiences, and the more I learned, the further I pushed my expectations, the hotter and wilder the girls in my life became.
At this time I was a decent pickup artist, but still not an Alpha. There was one thing missing.
As I spent more time banging girls, the more I learned about their true nature. With our moms, media and the average man’s view of the world, many of today’s men believe the fairy tale that women are not very sexual, weak victims that are also loyal and pure in heart. They simply want to be treated tenderly and sweetly to win their love.
However, that life view was not lining up at all with what I experienced in real life. The true nature of women is much different than how media or society portrays them. I have slept with many beautiful women in the last 10 years, and at least 75% of them were either married, engaged, living with a guy, or had a serious boyfriend. None of those girls told me about it till after they fucked me. As I was included more into the world of women (as men and Alpha’s do) the more fucked up shit I saw them do. Basically, think of every stereotype women accuse men of, and multiply it by 1000 and that is how they are.
For example, guys will brag about the girl they banged and how hot she was. There will be no real detail, just she was hot. Girls will discuss everything. From how hard you fucked her, how big you were, the number of positions, how good you were, how they felt and every other detail. There are no secrets between females.
And if you are in a relationship with her and she gets mad at you, every single detail, failure, mistake or otherwise sensitive information you have ever let her know will be shared with everyone that will listen to her. I also noticed just how manipulative they are. They are physically smaller than most men (at least the hot ones are) so when they really get mad, they use other men to try to make a man submit.
Or they use most men for utility. I was shocked as I learned exactly how many of these hot girls accepted dinners, clothes, cars, money, trips and anything else from a man while acting like they liked him, only to make fun of his weakness behind his back. Hundreds of times girls have come to my house at midnight after their date dropped them off to climb in bed with me. Now, I am not putting them down, simply pointing out I always looked at women like weak, pure snowflakes that needed my protection.
Now I use them like the slut I know she wants to be in the bedroom. But I still ALWAYS treat them with the same respect they give me. Women are the most beautiful creatures known to man. Understanding the true nature of women is what moved me from beta to Alpha. Being an Alpha also really made my life so much simpler! So fast forward to today, and I still read about new developments in psychology and human behavior. I still flirt with every hot girl I meet, and I enjoy the hell out of my life.
My journey went something like this:
0-12 months = More confidence, started dating some cute girls
12-24 months = refined my approach, became smooth, used subliminal training and started dating the most beautiful girls.
24 months – 4 years = learned more about social proof and female nature.
Became Alpha. Learning these skills not only helped me get laid a lot more, but it also helped me build the life I want surrounded by like-minded individuals. I refuse to ever go back to being a beta or hanging out with betas.
Hope this answers your question Chance!